The internet is full of #bodyshaming and posts that tell you what you should look like. I don’t believe there is one body shape that is the “right” one.
We all have different body types and you should never have to feel ashamed for how you look! Sometimes I wonder when this whole “I look so ugly” trend started.
When you were a kid, all you worried about was who had the better toys, right? It breaks my heart to know that so many young adults feel bad in their bodies.
That’s why I want to share my personal tips on how you can learn to love your body again.
1. Take care of your body
“You need to take care of your body and soul.” I’m sure you’ve heard of this a million times in the past months.
It’s almost annoying how often we get told to do the following things:
- Work out regularly
- Eat healthy
- Sleep enough
- Make time for me-time
I know what you must be thinking right now. “This is not new to me, tell me something new!” I hate to admit, but unfortunately, they are very important when it comes to loving yourself more.
It’s hard to love a tired body that isn’t fed properly with nutritious food. You simply do not work at your best level if you feel physically and mentally exhausted all the time.
Even if you ignored the rest of this post and only improved these 4 areas of your life, you’d do yourself such a huge favor. Loving yourself starts with treating yourself right!
You need to understand that the first step to loving your body starts with treating it right!
2. Listen to your body
So many people seem to have lost the connection to their bodies. We don’t listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us anymore.
Imagine a relationship with your partner if you don’t communicate anymore. Imagine you couldn’t tell your partner what you are worried about or that how he treated you last week hurt your feelings.
I want you to ask yourself: do you want that kind of relationship with your own body? Start listening to your body and soon you will become so much more comfortable with yourself.
3. Improve your posture
You will be amazed by how much difference this one will make for you! You will feel so much stronger and more confident and everyone around you will notice it.
- Stand up tall
- Chin up
- Shoulders should line up over your hips
4. Change what you don’t like
It’s easier said than done, I know. But for real, what isn’t? Nothing! Everything is easier said than done. To love your body it’s totally ok to change the little things you don’t like. You don’t have to walk around with a haircut that makes you feel like a 12-year-old.
If losing or gaining a few pounds would make you feel more comfortable, then go for it! Set realistic goals and work towards them. You will be surprised by how much this can impact your body image.
Ladies, try experimenting with makeup if you want to see another side of you. (If you don’t want to wear makeup that’s totally ok!!!)
Do what makes YOU feel beautiful. Don’t worry about what others might think of your new style! Only what you think when you see yourself in the mirror really matters!
5. Stop comparing your body
This is probably the most difficult part when it comes to learning how to love yourself. I know it’s tempting to look at other people and instantly think, “damn, I want to look like her/him”.
Have you ever thought about the possibility that others might look at you and think the same?
6. Try affirmations
Using affirmations can be such a powerful tool. If you constantly tell yourself that your hair looks ugly, you will never like it. On the other side, when we use our thoughts for positive things, it makes it easier to see ourselves as beautiful human beings.
Affirmations you could use:
- I look beautiful today
- I am perfect the way I am
- My flaws don’t impact my worthiness
- My flaws make me unique
- I love my body
- I honor my body
- I’m proud of my body
- I’m a unicorn (just kidding :p)
Stop telling yourself that you look ugly or that you have a bad hair day. No one likes body shaming. Don’t do it to yourself.
7. Seek professional help
Please don’t forget I’m not a professional. I’m just sharing my advice and my personal tips on how I learned to love my body again. Please consider getting professional help if you deal with more serious issues.
How they can help you:
Doctors can help you:
- figure out if something is wrong with your body
- find the right medication for physical conditions
Psychologists can help you:
- deal with bad thoughts
- find a way to get rid of those negative emotions
- by talking about your feelings
Personal Trainers can help you:
- reach your fitness goals
- create a workout plan
- with meal plans
- stick to your workout routine
8. Practise acceptance
Some things can’t be changed unless you consider surgery. In my opinion, there’s nothing wrong with changing what truly makes you feel uncomfortable. Only you can decide what’s best for your body.
When you look into the mirror and you see that part that you don’t like, try and let it go. Tell yourself that it’s ok to have this “flaw”. Try and find what makes you perfectly unperfect and be proud of it.
It might take a while to get used to the thought of not hating your nose or thighs or whatever but I promise, it will become easier.
I hope these tips help you find a better balance and feeling for your body. You only have one!
Let me know in the comments what you think about #bodyshaming!